How to Help Someone With an Unsupportive Spouse

by Kevin on September 11, 2012

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If you have been around this business for any length of time, you have seen the dreaded unsupportive spouse.  Heck – I used to be one.

Maybe they are just overly protective or they think that network marketing is a pyramid scheme or some get rich quick scheme.  Either way, these unsupportive spouses can make things harder for the network marketer in their life and possibly yours.

If you have someone on your team or someone looking to join your team whose spouse is not supportive of this business, this article will arm you with some ideas on how to help that person get their spouse to be more supportive of the business.

Educate Them

One reason some spouses are not comfortable with network marketing is simply a lack of understanding.  The beauty of this business is that it is not completely mainstream which creates a lot of opportunities. The challenge lies in the fact there is not a lot of good information in the mainstream of society out there about network marketing because it isn’t mainstream.  In fact, there are more bits of misinformation and misconceptions out there.

The people in your life who need the support from their spouse will need a little direction.  Point them to places that will provide them with good positive information.  Help that spouse to do their own research.  I did my own research, and there were some videos that helped me to turn around my opinion of network marketing.

My recommendation is to show information both from your company and from outside of your company.  By showing information about this profession from outside of  your company, it can be viewed as powerful third party validation rather than being taken as a sales pitch or having bias.  This website was created in part for that reason, and there are many other great resources online with a little looking.

Have Them Talk to Other Spouses Who Were Once Not-So-Supportive

As I mentioned, I used to be an unsupportive spouse.  Sure I “let” my wife join on (as if I had that much choice).  I did come around after I saw that my wife was doing well.  The reality is that there are many spouses who were not supportive in the beginning and have come around.

Speaking to  spouses who have come to be more supportive can help turn around the unsupportive ones.  It can be powerful to speak to other people who have been in similar situations and had like-minded opinions.  Hearing how someone else came around can help the unsupportive spouses understand the world of network marketing from the perspective of people they can relate with.

Include Them In the Business

Some people just need to be brought in and made to feel like part of the team.  Maybe the unsupportive spouse does not want to be part of the business in front of customers, prospects, and fellow team members, but they would be comfortable with being in different roles.  Maybe they can help set goals.  Maybe they can help by keeping financial records.

Everyone has skills, talents, and interests.  Finding ways to work with their interests and talents can compliment the business.  Some people will come around if they get a chance to get more involved.

Ask for Their Blessing

It can just come down to asking for their support.  Sometimes it works better to get your team member to ask directly for their spouse’s support.  Sometimes it works better for an outsider to ask for support in the business.  Whatever it takes – ask.

Give Them Time

Rome was not built in a day and network marketing businesses do not get built in a day either.  People turn around.  For many, they just want to see the progress of the business and that will slowly help them progress in how they view the business.

Some people need a combination of all these strategies.  It is okay.  Help the unsupported spouses to show the unsupportive spouses to see the light.  It will not be overnight, and it may take some work.

Trust me when I say that spousal support is worth the effort and going after it is just part of leadership.

How have you handled people in your organization with unsupportive spouses.